Health, Spirituality

Sticks and Stones…

 My mom always says that this little rhyme is completely false. I tend to agree. After all, bones can heal. Our physical bodies can heal. But the words that people say to us, whether intentionally unkind or not, leave scars.

I thought that once I got the big picture, once I had a handle on these amazing universal truths, the words of others would no longer have the same effect. Unfortunately, I thought wrong. Yes, I might now understand why someone says the things that they do or why someone behaves the way that they do, but that doesn’t always make it better. The pain is still there; the hurt remains.

So how do I release these feelings rather than allow them to begin decomposing me from the inside out? I have thought very hard about this and I believe that the answer is a simple one: let it go. Afterall, what do you change by continuing to think about it? Does thinking about it or even approaching the person change the words that were said? Absolutely not. It could give you clarity, it could make it feel a little better, but I can guarantee that those words are still in the back of your mind (or in your heart) and you will use them as justification as to why you need a wall or a shield in the future when dealing with that person. But that’s not healthy either. Building walls to keep us “safe” only keeps us from truly experiencing the amazing things that come from having meaningful relationships with people. Let it go. Holding on, thinking about it only does one thing: it makes you feel bad. I’m not saying letting go is easy. I’m just saying that truly forgiving does not necessarily entail an apology from the other person. Truly forgiving takes only one person: you. So today that is what I’m working on. Truly forgiving and letting go. Wish me luck!

Spirituality

The Ring

Did you know that you are supposed to get the prongs on your ring checked every 6 months? I didn’t. I found out this little bit of information the hard way. In mid-August, I took a little trip to the local Wal-Mart to do some present shopping for various little people who were having their birthdays (including my own son). The trip, though otherwise successful and quiet, ended in me climbing into my car only to notice that the diamond from my engagement ring had fallen out somewhere in the store. Now let me just say, I hope that none of you ever have the need to retrace steps in a Wal-Mart. If you are anything like me, that place is like ADD heaven and there is some strange gravitational pull coming from aisles where you probably don’t even need anything! Strange, but it’s true. I wish I could say that this retracing of steps led to me seeing this little glimmer and viola, no lost diamond, but it didn’t. I also never got that call from the customer service desk saying that they found it or that someone had turned it in (don’t laugh, I truly had hope that this would happen). So here I am about a month later and I am still asking my spirit why this had to happen “to me”. What big lesson was I supposed to learn from it all? I have received so much information from spirit for other people to help them move forward and change their lives, but this one little question of mine seems to have no answer. Is that even possible? Of course not. So today I asked again and finally I heard an answer.

I heard that this didn’t happen “to me”, it just happened. But there is a lesson to be learned. As humans, we sometimes become very egocentric. This happened because I did this or didn’t do that; and this person behaved like that because I said this or didn’t say that. You know what? 99.9% of the time that is absolutely NOT TRUE! Things happen. They happen not because of one person or another but because these events are needed (usually for several people) to help them learn a lesson. So this particular event affected me, my husband, my children, my friends who are now no longer wearing their engagement rings until they can go get the prongs checked (Christina), the workers at Wal-Mart with whom I spoke, the insurance company ladies, the police officer that couldn’t help me (though he wished he could) because it wasn’t stolen, the ladies in the jewelry store(s) that I went to see how much it would cost to replace it, and now you. This event touched each of us in a different way, but it has touched us and has probably taught us a lesson or two. For me, it was a very expensive lesson and one that had an emotional string attached to it, but I also had the amazing opportunity (yet again) to experience contrast in human nature. For every person that I spoke to that was rude or unwilling to help or sympathize, there were 2 that did their best to make me feel okay with a situation that just wasn’t okay. I faced those that had no empathy, but I was blessed by those that did. And you know what? I guess there was an even bigger lesson in it for me. We have choice. In every second of every day we have a choice. And your choice is almost always going to show up in someone else’s story. What do you want that to look like?

So I may not have that diamond anymore, but I have something…

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After a bit of a break from blogging, I stumbled upon this article. I absolutely love the hope and the purpose behind it. And the song that it introduced me to is absolutely beautiful. Thank you!
Maria

Live Your Life Well: Stay Positive

by Mary Padilla

Just as much as we see in others we have in ourselves.” ~William Hazlitt

As an American living and working abroad in Barcelona with only local Spanish and Catalan television, I often look to the Internet for entertainment when I have downtime. I particularly enjoy looking up songs I’ve heard on the radio.

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