“Happy Little Accidents”

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“There are no mistakes, only happy accidents.”
― Bob Ross

This morning, after drinking about 1/4 of my cup of coffee, I realized that it was time to take the kids to school. I poured my coffee into a travel mug and was attempting to put on the lid, when I noticed that it wasn’t going on because the rubber stopper in the lid had come out of place. Worse yet, in my attempts to put on the lid, little black pieces of the stopper had fallen into my coffee. Bummer. I dumped it down the drain, figured that I wasn’t meant to have coffee this morning, and took the kids to school.
When I got home, I decided to boil some water to make some tea instead. The plan was to have a cup of tea and meditate, but I got side-tracked (surprise, surprise!), and began to crochet instead. I heard the tea-pot whistle, got up to go pour it into my cup and that’s when I saw it. On the little paper connected to the tea bag was the word “Connect!”. As you can imagine, I had to laugh at myself for that one. I put down my crochet and sat in my chair. Happy little accident indeed. Had my coffee not gotten messed up this morning, I probably wouldn’t have made tea which means that I would have wasted my morning crocheting instead of meditating (not that crochet is a waste, but you get the picture).
So what it comes down to is this: maybe Bob Ross was onto something. Maybe there are truly no mistakes, just happy accidents. And here we are again circling back to a recurring theme in my life. Perspective and Choice. I could have gotten mad about the coffee. It could have “ruined” my morning. Instead, that little mishap ended up making my morning better. So today, I thank God for ruined coffee 🙂

A Little More Light

Just wrote this post for my other blog. If any of you that follow my joyfully renewed blog know how to knit or crochet and would like to donate toward this, please let me know! Thank you! 🙂

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A Little More Light

I found this floating around on FB after the tragedy at the Boston Marathon. It’s truth rang so strong in my heart that I had to share here as well.
It also goes along with a post that I have been meaning to write for several weeks now, but as life would have it, I have been extremely busy with my own projects, and have put this idea on the back burner. Time to bring it to the front.
In the last month, I have made yet another couple of hats for someone who recently found themselves having to begin chemotherapy. I hadn’t thought about it too much prior to this point, but I have made nearly a dozen hats this year for friends, family, family of friends, and children who were undergoing chemotherapy.
So here’s my call. Thanks to a friend of ours (whose son has recently gone into…

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The Task Tornado

It’s a scary image in and of itself, but imagine this happening within you. I call it (as of this morning) the “task tornado”. We’ve all felt it. We have “a million things” that we have to do and the more we think about it, the bigger the list feels, the tighter our chest gets, and the more overwhelmed we get until…du du du…our list has gone from storm warning to full on tornado! Uhg. How did that happen?

I was given an image this morning as I was talking to a friend. I saw 4 or 5 little dots, aka tasks, spotted around her. Then I was shown how frustration, anger, impatience, feed into and grow these “dots” until they start spinning out of control and become this whirlwind that feels larger than life. It happens to all of us. I currently have a full-page list of “to-do’s” for my day ranging from calling doctors to set up appointments to a whole sublist under the “get ready for my daughter’s birthday party” task. Sadly write blog post was not even on my list! So how do we get out from under the rubble after the tornado has hit?

First, close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths. Ahhh, better already. Then, begin to pull those tasks apart. Organize them by what must be done today to what can be done this week. I think that it’s very important to recognize the role that impatience plays in all of this. What is impatience really? For me, it’s when I have a timeline that I have placed on those around me. I get frustrated and angry when they don’t finish their task on my schedule. The unfortunate part is twofold: 1- either I have failed to tell them about my timeline OR have failed to tell them about the task (no, thinking it in your head doesn’t count); and 2-sometimes the tornado itself has created the timeline. In other words, sometimes the urgency that you feel in completing the task was actually created in the chaos and not necessarily as urgent as it may have felt. Does that make sense?

Awareness of your tornado is the first step to slowing it down to a manageable level. That being said, I am putting “close eyes and breathe” at the top and adding “write blog post” to my list so that I can cross off 2 tasks already for today 🙂 There’s nothing like seeing a check on my list to give me momentum!

Have a wonderful Monday everyone! Here’s to keeping the tornado warnings to a minimum this week.

Balance… And How I’m Not Very Good At It

The more women I talk to, the more aware that I become that we all seem to pride ourselves on being really good multi-taskers.  Many of us go to work, volunteer, are caregivers (whether that be to the young or the old), tend to the house, cook, plan parties and play dates, help out friends, and the list goes on… Sometimes all of these to-do’s land on the same day!
As we sit exhausted by the end of the day, we pat ourselves on the back and say, “boy, I’m a good multi-tasker.” The truth of it is, we’re probably not that good 🙂 What?! How dare I!
As I sat in meditation today (due to the fact that my hip, knee, and ankle have been hurting for 2 days and I still haven’t made time to sit and listen!), I saw an image very similar to this

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Ahhh, I get it now! If we don’t take the time to refuel ourselves in whatever way we know how (energy treatments, quiet meditation, prayer, reading, going for a silent walk… whatever fills your heart), then eventually the bucket runs dry. Multitasking just creates more holes.  The more we commit ourselves to doing, the less energy we have to be able to put toward each task. 
Ideally, we would be able to limit our commitments to just 2 or 3 a day, patch up each hole as we finish a task and move on to the next. We would remember to do something for ourselves to refuel and we would start fresh the next day.  But life happens.  We over-commit, we forget to patch, and we have days when we feel so drained that we wonder how we’ll start over again the next day… or even how we’ll drag ourselves up to bed that night (after we wash the dishes of course).
I’m not writing this post to chastise or to try to convince you to do less.  I know that there are many of you out there that can’t promise to do that.  However, I am writing to share my own awareness with you.  With awareness, comes choice.  Do I hobble up the stairs and go on with my life and my never ending to-do’s? Or do I stop, take a moment to sit, refuel, and start my day fresh? I know what I choose today.
And oddly, the pain has already gone.
Have a wonderful Wednesday everyone!
-Maria

Ask and You Shall Receive…

Okay, so that’s just funny. I just typed the title of this post into Google Images, and this was one of the pictures that came up 🙂 Not quite where I was about to go with this post, but okay. Pretty funny.

Now that I’ve got your attention, time to get down to what I really wanted to post about. The stomach bug (sorry Bradley Cooper). That thing has been going through our schools and unfortunately, over the last week, through our children with a vengeance. Today, my friend/neighbor/carpool buddy called to tell me that one of her sons woke up this morning looking grey and saying that his stomach was hurting. Uh-oh. Naturally, I offered to give him an energy treatment to see if we could keep this thing from really sinking in over in  her house. Two kids at our house was bad enough, I can only imagine the war zone it would be if it took hold of her four…I would have to crochet some Lysol holsters for her to strap on…but I digress.

So as I was giving her son energy, I noticed that he was very depleted. I would fill, check and see that he was getting better, but still depleted. I started thinking about how when we are depleted, we are more susceptible to picking up all the yuckies that are floating around us and hanging out on doorknobs, etc and started wondering. Yes, I have this knowledge and yes, I have the ability to keep us all “filled”, but do I really have the time to devote to giving my entire family (and my friends and their families) energy treatments every morning? The answer is no. I really don’t. I would love to, but I can’t. So how do we protect our families from unnecessary illnesses? It was at that point that I asked God to fill all of his energy points. No sooner were the “thought words” out, than I heard, “okay, done.” Really?!?! Ahh, yes. Really. Ask and you shall receive, right? And quickly. I checked him again, and sure enough. Completely full and in balance. Just. Like. That.

I called my friend about 15 minutes later to tell her about what had happened and she said that her son had– the moment before the phone rang–just come down and said he was hungry. Amazing.

I think that sometimes we forget. We forget that we are not in this thing all alone. We forget that it’s not actually all in our control, and thank goodness, not all in our hands. That would be a lot to hold!

So instead of taking a few hours every morning to do energy work on all my family and friends, how about asking for God to take care of them? Keep them healthy and safe and know and trust that it is not such a huge task when I just ask.

A New Awareness

Over the last four weeks, I have been taking part in a truly amazing experience. I am doing a small group Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy class (also referred to as PRYT). This program is really interesting. It’s not just yoga, but an opportunity to do some real self-discovery. I would venture to say that if you are not ready to take a good hard look at yourself, then maybe this program isn’t quite up your alley. However, I am. I have mentioned PRYT in my posts before. I have done several 1 on 1 sessions prior to signing up for this 8 week course and each session has led to a huge “ah-ha” moment in my life and consequently a “larger than baby step” move forward.

All this being said, we have moved through the ideas of Awareness and Acceptance with moments of extreme clarity. This past week, while meditating, the little voice within gave me this beautiful little nugget of awareness:

You put can’ts around you like a warm blanket. What if you concentrated on pulling those away and on surrounding yourself with “cans”. There is comfort in the can’t mentality. It takes away responsibility and pressure of having to do something. It makes it ok to sit here and wait for things to happen to you. We want you to walk through this discomfort. To move forward in the knowing and the realm of “can”.

Pretty big moment of awareness if you ask me 🙂 And, sadly, so true. I have had moments in my life of complete and utter stagnation. Why? Because I surrounded myself with can’t, got comfortable there, chose to sit and wait, and then proceeded to wonder why nothing was happening! Silly right? But it’s true. So as I currently sit in another brief moment of stagnation, I have made a choice. I am chosing to take another step forward. To really work on removing can’t from my mind and my heart and instead surrounding myself with the idea of can.

What would that look like for you? Maybe even more importantly, what would that feel like for you?

Much love to all of you as you look in and hopefully take another step forward with me 🙂

Maria

Where Have You Been???

I will admit that I am a relatively private person. I know a lot of people, but if I truly take stock in my life, I can honestly say that I have only about a dozen people in my life that know me, truly know me, through and through. Lately, that number has been growing. I have been “coming out” of this shell that I have built and opening myself up to more and more people. I had created this safe little cocoon, a protective layer, hoping that I could let those around me only see the parts that I was ready and willing to share. Well, slowly, I’ve been breaking down that layer…busting out of my cocoon. Why? I’m frankly tired of not being true to myself and worrying about what other people might think. As I head toward 40, I realize that I really don’t know what I’m waiting for. When will I be confident enough to stand up and say, this is who I am. If you like it, great! If you don’t, oh well. So I’m taking another step today.

I realize that I haven’t been writing much over the past few months, and truly there’s a good reason. I get really busy in the winter months with my hobby/teeny tiny business. I feel forever blessed that I am able to use my hands to create and have been able to do so on such a large scale over the past few years. It is a constant reminder of how far I’ve come.

So here’s what I’ve been up to over the last few months. I actually haven’t had much time to even do entries on my other page, but I have managed to do more there than here 🙂 http://joyfulmamadesigns.wordpress.com

Enjoy! And here’s to taking another huge step in my life (insert pat on back emoticon).

Maria