Happy 2016!

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Honoring the self. Nurturing the self. This is that time of the year when we begin looking at what we are dissatisfied with–parts of our lives and our bodies–and begin making “resolutions” that are intended to change the things that we don’t like.
What if we were to shift our thinking ever so slightly, and instead make a promise to nurture the parts of us that we do like but that often go neglected because of other priorities or obligations.
If you enjoy running, promise yourself to make more time to run. If you enjoy meditating, carve out 10 minutes (something doable but fulfilling) a day to focus on meditation. If you love art, promise yourself to take a class…do better,  seek it out and book it!
I was recently given the message, “action is required”. Show that you are willing to take the steps and open the doors to all the possibilities!
Happy 2016 to all of you!

What You Focus On, Grows

I do energy sessions for people. This mostly consists of channeling energy and interpreting information about balance and depletion for my clients. However, the majority of the time, I also receive messages for them during our sessions.  Sometimes these messages are very specific for what they need in that moment, but I have found that the message almost always resonates with me as well.
When I asked spirit about why this always seems to happen, the answer was clear. “Foolish is the being who believes that they have learned all that they need to know. When the messages stop resonating with you, then it is time to look more closely at your life and your journey.”
With this in mind, I began to think, without jeopardizing the confidentiality of my clients, maybe I am meant to share some of these messages. After all, if they resonate with me, isn’t it possible that others could benefit from them as well?
So today we focus on gratitude. What if we made an effort to state gratitude starting with the simplest of things. At first, it would seem silly.
“Today I’m grateful that I remembered that I had these curtains from our old house. I just got them out and they fit perfectly on the doors to my office.”
It seems silly to state it, but the more you notice and state gratitude for the seemingly mundane, the more blessings you will begin to notice in your life.
Focusing on criticism–whether toward self or toward others–will only bring about more opportunities for criticism.
I believe it’s time to shift our focus to gratitude!

“Happy Little Accidents”

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“There are no mistakes, only happy accidents.”
― Bob Ross

This morning, after drinking about 1/4 of my cup of coffee, I realized that it was time to take the kids to school. I poured my coffee into a travel mug and was attempting to put on the lid, when I noticed that it wasn’t going on because the rubber stopper in the lid had come out of place. Worse yet, in my attempts to put on the lid, little black pieces of the stopper had fallen into my coffee. Bummer. I dumped it down the drain, figured that I wasn’t meant to have coffee this morning, and took the kids to school.
When I got home, I decided to boil some water to make some tea instead. The plan was to have a cup of tea and meditate, but I got side-tracked (surprise, surprise!), and began to crochet instead. I heard the tea-pot whistle, got up to go pour it into my cup and that’s when I saw it. On the little paper connected to the tea bag was the word “Connect!”. As you can imagine, I had to laugh at myself for that one. I put down my crochet and sat in my chair. Happy little accident indeed. Had my coffee not gotten messed up this morning, I probably wouldn’t have made tea which means that I would have wasted my morning crocheting instead of meditating (not that crochet is a waste, but you get the picture).
So what it comes down to is this: maybe Bob Ross was onto something. Maybe there are truly no mistakes, just happy accidents. And here we are again circling back to a recurring theme in my life. Perspective and Choice. I could have gotten mad about the coffee. It could have “ruined” my morning. Instead, that little mishap ended up making my morning better. So today, I thank God for ruined coffee 🙂

The Task Tornado

It’s a scary image in and of itself, but imagine this happening within you. I call it (as of this morning) the “task tornado”. We’ve all felt it. We have “a million things” that we have to do and the more we think about it, the bigger the list feels, the tighter our chest gets, and the more overwhelmed we get until…du du du…our list has gone from storm warning to full on tornado! Uhg. How did that happen?

I was given an image this morning as I was talking to a friend. I saw 4 or 5 little dots, aka tasks, spotted around her. Then I was shown how frustration, anger, impatience, feed into and grow these “dots” until they start spinning out of control and become this whirlwind that feels larger than life. It happens to all of us. I currently have a full-page list of “to-do’s” for my day ranging from calling doctors to set up appointments to a whole sublist under the “get ready for my daughter’s birthday party” task. Sadly write blog post was not even on my list! So how do we get out from under the rubble after the tornado has hit?

First, close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths. Ahhh, better already. Then, begin to pull those tasks apart. Organize them by what must be done today to what can be done this week. I think that it’s very important to recognize the role that impatience plays in all of this. What is impatience really? For me, it’s when I have a timeline that I have placed on those around me. I get frustrated and angry when they don’t finish their task on my schedule. The unfortunate part is twofold: 1- either I have failed to tell them about my timeline OR have failed to tell them about the task (no, thinking it in your head doesn’t count); and 2-sometimes the tornado itself has created the timeline. In other words, sometimes the urgency that you feel in completing the task was actually created in the chaos and not necessarily as urgent as it may have felt. Does that make sense?

Awareness of your tornado is the first step to slowing it down to a manageable level. That being said, I am putting “close eyes and breathe” at the top and adding “write blog post” to my list so that I can cross off 2 tasks already for today 🙂 There’s nothing like seeing a check on my list to give me momentum!

Have a wonderful Monday everyone! Here’s to keeping the tornado warnings to a minimum this week.

Ask and You Shall Receive…

Okay, so that’s just funny. I just typed the title of this post into Google Images, and this was one of the pictures that came up 🙂 Not quite where I was about to go with this post, but okay. Pretty funny.

Now that I’ve got your attention, time to get down to what I really wanted to post about. The stomach bug (sorry Bradley Cooper). That thing has been going through our schools and unfortunately, over the last week, through our children with a vengeance. Today, my friend/neighbor/carpool buddy called to tell me that one of her sons woke up this morning looking grey and saying that his stomach was hurting. Uh-oh. Naturally, I offered to give him an energy treatment to see if we could keep this thing from really sinking in over in  her house. Two kids at our house was bad enough, I can only imagine the war zone it would be if it took hold of her four…I would have to crochet some Lysol holsters for her to strap on…but I digress.

So as I was giving her son energy, I noticed that he was very depleted. I would fill, check and see that he was getting better, but still depleted. I started thinking about how when we are depleted, we are more susceptible to picking up all the yuckies that are floating around us and hanging out on doorknobs, etc and started wondering. Yes, I have this knowledge and yes, I have the ability to keep us all “filled”, but do I really have the time to devote to giving my entire family (and my friends and their families) energy treatments every morning? The answer is no. I really don’t. I would love to, but I can’t. So how do we protect our families from unnecessary illnesses? It was at that point that I asked God to fill all of his energy points. No sooner were the “thought words” out, than I heard, “okay, done.” Really?!?! Ahh, yes. Really. Ask and you shall receive, right? And quickly. I checked him again, and sure enough. Completely full and in balance. Just. Like. That.

I called my friend about 15 minutes later to tell her about what had happened and she said that her son had– the moment before the phone rang–just come down and said he was hungry. Amazing.

I think that sometimes we forget. We forget that we are not in this thing all alone. We forget that it’s not actually all in our control, and thank goodness, not all in our hands. That would be a lot to hold!

So instead of taking a few hours every morning to do energy work on all my family and friends, how about asking for God to take care of them? Keep them healthy and safe and know and trust that it is not such a huge task when I just ask.

A New Awareness

Over the last four weeks, I have been taking part in a truly amazing experience. I am doing a small group Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy class (also referred to as PRYT). This program is really interesting. It’s not just yoga, but an opportunity to do some real self-discovery. I would venture to say that if you are not ready to take a good hard look at yourself, then maybe this program isn’t quite up your alley. However, I am. I have mentioned PRYT in my posts before. I have done several 1 on 1 sessions prior to signing up for this 8 week course and each session has led to a huge “ah-ha” moment in my life and consequently a “larger than baby step” move forward.

All this being said, we have moved through the ideas of Awareness and Acceptance with moments of extreme clarity. This past week, while meditating, the little voice within gave me this beautiful little nugget of awareness:

You put can’ts around you like a warm blanket. What if you concentrated on pulling those away and on surrounding yourself with “cans”. There is comfort in the can’t mentality. It takes away responsibility and pressure of having to do something. It makes it ok to sit here and wait for things to happen to you. We want you to walk through this discomfort. To move forward in the knowing and the realm of “can”.

Pretty big moment of awareness if you ask me 🙂 And, sadly, so true. I have had moments in my life of complete and utter stagnation. Why? Because I surrounded myself with can’t, got comfortable there, chose to sit and wait, and then proceeded to wonder why nothing was happening! Silly right? But it’s true. So as I currently sit in another brief moment of stagnation, I have made a choice. I am chosing to take another step forward. To really work on removing can’t from my mind and my heart and instead surrounding myself with the idea of can.

What would that look like for you? Maybe even more importantly, what would that feel like for you?

Much love to all of you as you look in and hopefully take another step forward with me 🙂

Maria

Healing with Flowers?

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Disease is solely and purely corrective; it is neither vindictive nor cruel, but it is the means adopted by our own souls to point out to us our faults, to prevent our making greater errors, to hinder us from doing more harm, and to bring us back to the path of Truth and Light from which we should never have strayed.

-Edward Back in his Collected Writings

Recently I have begun to dive into the world of Bach Flower Remedies with a passion. If I could buy all 38 of them and try them out on my own at different times (or with volunteers), I would. Wait, I suppose I could do that but don’t currently have the extra money falling out of my pockets…some day.

Anyway, after reading Vinton McCabe’s The Healing Bouquet: Exploring Bach Flower Remedies, I identified a few remedies that I myself might benefit from taking. Here’s the thing about healing your life (whether from disease or old thought patterns, whatever), it can be really hard! I will be the first to admit that it’s ridiculously difficult to look at yourself and focus on your shortcomings or character “flaws”, but over the last several years I have also become very aware that if you want to move forward with health and joy, this is exactly what you need to do! Uhg to exploring and dissecting yourself. So much easier to do with others 😉

So there’s a part in this book–I will paraphrase as I have no idea where to find it off the top of my head–where it talks about how difficult it can be to see these negative characteristics in ourselves. He says that our answers often lie in our biggest pet peeves. Nooooooo!!!! Yes. So what drives me crazy? When people that I love don’t see themselves for the amazing, beautiful, capable beings that they are. When they lack self-confidence in everyday life and especially regarding things that I (and probably everyone else around them) can see that they are amazing at doing. It really bothers me. Hmmmm.

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Sooooo…that being said, I started taking Larch (pictured above–follow the link to see other beautiful photos of flowers and pottery creations). Dr. Bach says that this remedy is “for those who do not consider themselves as good or capable as those around them, who expect failure, who feel that they will never be a success, and so do not venture or make a strong enough attempt to succeed.”

Eek. Could that be me? Yes. Sadly, it could. I will spare you the uneventful, very simple reason that I have had self-confidence issues all my life and just admit it. This is true. This is me. This book helped me realize it and about the same time that I was reading this book, I was looking online one day and found some really great energy workers who were offering meditation classes, etc. As I looked at the bio page, I saw that they had been doing this for 3 years. 3 years! And already they started a website offering energy and meditation workshops, etc. And it hit me. I have been doing energy and meditating for nearly 13 years and have been off medicines for my RA and have had no problems with it since…never once did it occur to me that I was capable or qualified to teach. Crazy right?!

I started taking the Larch about 2 weeks ago. Since then, I have offered and hosted/taught my first beginning meditation class out of my house. It was only a handful of people that I feel comfortable with, but it went really well! Surprisingly well I would say. And the best part about it is that they asked for more. So we are continuing this class every other week and I look forward to watching as each of my friends begins to find more peace in their everyday lives. More quiet to reflect. And hopefully the calm to begin to hear that inner voice, that whisper, that we so often miss.

Healing with flowers Dr. Bach? I’m starting to think he might have been onto something…

How I Really Look

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Soooo, I saw this on facebook yesterday and just couldn’t help myself (for several reasons)! So funny! But really, does anyone else ever feel like this? What’s really funny is that just after re-sharing this on FB, I turned to wordpress to read and be inspired and what do I find? This little beauty http://goss-coaching.com/2012/12/06/love-your-body-to-get-the-body-you-love/
The truth is, I have never been fully satisfied with my body. What is it about this vicious cycle and women? When I was young, and let’s face it, should have been very happy with my body, I put a lot of energy into covering it up. I felt very self-conscious of how “developed” I was…so to speak. At some point in my adult life–actually, I know the exact point, it was when I had my last relapse in the fall of ’99 and was put on steroids (among many other meds)–I started gaining weight for the first time in my life and even after I recovered from all that and started putting myself back on track, I found it very difficult to take that weight off. What had changed in me? Whatever it was, it’s still haunting me. That is the one part of my life that I just haven’t reclaimed. I went from never having an issue with weight to being on this roller coaster of weight gain/loss. Sure, having 2 children can account for some of that roller coaster, but I believe the issue is deeper than that. I know the issue is deeper than that…
So, this morning I am going to put my ET feelings aside and reread (probably several times) the post by Goss Coaching and do a little soul-searching. Wish me luck!

To Our Health! (and maybe I was a little bit wrong)

Normally, when I write, I try to first connect so that I can “speak” from a place of higher understanding. The other day I did not. Not fully. I even admitted that in my post. I wrote, “I thought very hard about this and I believe the answer is a simple one: let it go.” Sometimes “thinking” is the problem when it comes to big issues. We trust our logical, very intelligent ;), heads rather than the whisper that comes from our hearts. Well, since I wrote that blog, I have had neck and upper back/shoulder pain that…well, really hurts. And I don’t like not being able to turn my head without that jab of pain, so I am thinking that I am meant to go back and truly listen.

I believe that what I was missing was a crucial step. One that I have spent a lifetime working on. Speaking up. Talking about the problem, trying to work it out, expressing how I’m feeling and trusting that that person will not love me any less for having these feelings or opinions. Maybe, in fact, “letting go” and forgiving has a crucial place, but in my zeal to avoid the part of the lesson that is most difficult for me, I skipped the part before letting go: communicating. And here’s the key…it actually works better if you communicate from a place of calm, from your heart. Issues don’t get resolved when you wait for everything to come to a head and then lay it all out on the table with extra helpings of anger and defensiveness on the side. Instead, everyone leaves the table with sadness in their hearts and truly nothing gets resolved. Just brace yourself for that next dinner party when the same exact menu is served.

So here’s a toast to communicating. To clearing the table and making room for some new menu items to discuss. Hopefully at our next dinner party we won’t be showing up with the same foods that we know nobody likes 🙂

The Ring

Did you know that you are supposed to get the prongs on your ring checked every 6 months? I didn’t. I found out this little bit of information the hard way. In mid-August, I took a little trip to the local Wal-Mart to do some present shopping for various little people who were having their birthdays (including my own son). The trip, though otherwise successful and quiet, ended in me climbing into my car only to notice that the diamond from my engagement ring had fallen out somewhere in the store. Now let me just say, I hope that none of you ever have the need to retrace steps in a Wal-Mart. If you are anything like me, that place is like ADD heaven and there is some strange gravitational pull coming from aisles where you probably don’t even need anything! Strange, but it’s true. I wish I could say that this retracing of steps led to me seeing this little glimmer and viola, no lost diamond, but it didn’t. I also never got that call from the customer service desk saying that they found it or that someone had turned it in (don’t laugh, I truly had hope that this would happen). So here I am about a month later and I am still asking my spirit why this had to happen “to me”. What big lesson was I supposed to learn from it all? I have received so much information from spirit for other people to help them move forward and change their lives, but this one little question of mine seems to have no answer. Is that even possible? Of course not. So today I asked again and finally I heard an answer.

I heard that this didn’t happen “to me”, it just happened. But there is a lesson to be learned. As humans, we sometimes become very egocentric. This happened because I did this or didn’t do that; and this person behaved like that because I said this or didn’t say that. You know what? 99.9% of the time that is absolutely NOT TRUE! Things happen. They happen not because of one person or another but because these events are needed (usually for several people) to help them learn a lesson. So this particular event affected me, my husband, my children, my friends who are now no longer wearing their engagement rings until they can go get the prongs checked (Christina), the workers at Wal-Mart with whom I spoke, the insurance company ladies, the police officer that couldn’t help me (though he wished he could) because it wasn’t stolen, the ladies in the jewelry store(s) that I went to see how much it would cost to replace it, and now you. This event touched each of us in a different way, but it has touched us and has probably taught us a lesson or two. For me, it was a very expensive lesson and one that had an emotional string attached to it, but I also had the amazing opportunity (yet again) to experience contrast in human nature. For every person that I spoke to that was rude or unwilling to help or sympathize, there were 2 that did their best to make me feel okay with a situation that just wasn’t okay. I faced those that had no empathy, but I was blessed by those that did. And you know what? I guess there was an even bigger lesson in it for me. We have choice. In every second of every day we have a choice. And your choice is almost always going to show up in someone else’s story. What do you want that to look like?

So I may not have that diamond anymore, but I have something…